Redefining Sexy: Confidence, Comfort & Control Tops After 50

Because we’re not just aging—we’re upgrading.

Somewhere along the way, someone decided that turning 50 meant trading in fun for frump. Well, clearly they haven’t met us—or you. Today’s 50+ women are redefining what sexy looks and feels like, and it has nothing to do with trying to look 25.

Sexy now? It’s a vibe. It’s ease. It’s knowing yourself, dressing in a way that feels good and owning your space—whether you’re running errands, running businesses or running circles around women half your age.

Confidence First, Wardrobe Second

Let’s be clear: sexy isn’t an outfit. It’s not a push-up bra, a plunging neckline or a tight dress (though if that’s your thing, rock it). Sexy is walking into a room knowing exactly who you are and being unapologetic about it.

It’s pairing your favorite high-rise denim with a crisp white tee, a bold lipstick and a walk that says, “Yes, I woke up like this—and I meant to.” We’re loving the Spanx Women’s Flare Jeans for that perfect fit-without-fuss look. These jeans hug in the right places without squeezing the joy out of your day. Comfort? Check. Confidence? Double check. 

Let’s Talk Comfort (Not Compromise)

Comfort doesn’t mean sloppy. It means smart. It means having options in your closet that feel as good as they look—pieces you reach for again and again because they’re reliable, stylish and don’t make you count down the minutes until you can take them off.

We’re talking second-skin fabrics like the Yummie 6-in-1 Convertible Shaping Tank — a layering hero that smooths without squeezing. Or a flattering midi dress from the Zeagoo line that flows with you instead of clinging to everything you had for lunch.

And let’s talk elevated athleisure that actually works beyond the gym—sleek, flattering yoga pants that transition seamlessly from coffee run to casual dinner. The CRZ Yoga High-Waist Lounge Pants are buttery-soft, stylish and chic enough to pass as “real pants” when you want to look put-together without sacrificing your sanity. Because who says comfort can’t look pulled together?

Control Tops: Power Pieces, Not Punishment

Now, let’s address the shapewear elephant in the room. Control tops have come a long way, and thank goodness for that. They're not your grandmother’s girdle (do they even make those anymore?)— we’re here for smoothing, sculpting and looking sharp on our terms.

Brands like Shapermint Essentials High-Waisted Shaper Briefs and the super sleek Maidenform Flexees Women’s Shaping Bodysuit get the job done without turning into a wearable prison. They give a little nudge in the right places and stay put while you live your life.

Think of it less as camouflage and more as contour. It’s about enhancing what you’ve got, not hiding it. Brands like Shapermint and FeelinGirl are changing the game—smart compression, breathable fabric and pieces you actually want to wear. Whether it’s a smoothing bodysuit under a curve-hugging dress or high-waisted briefs under white trousers (you brave thing, you)—it’s about feeling secure, not squished.

And the key here? Choice. We don’t wear shapewear because we “should”—we wear it when we want to feel extra polished, snatched or unstoppable. And if that means leaving the midriff magician in the lingerie drawer in favor of stretch jeans and a swingy top and just enjoy that brunch? That’s power, too.

And because we love a multi-tasker, the Bali Women’s Comfort Revolution Wirefree Bra is a comfort-meets-support dream. It’s like your favorite lounge bra—but it actually works under real clothes, too.